IT’S THE DOCTOR’S JOB TO HEAL ME– this is the second in a three part series on mistakes I see people make. Part one can be found here.
You most likely will not enjoy this post. Because I love you, I need to be honest with you. Too many people spend their days clouded in the turmoil of chronic illness but choose to waste their precious energy on things that do not get them any closer to healing. They talk for hours about the injustice of the medical system, how horrible their last appointment was and wish ill of those in the medical field. Today I am going to share a hard truth with you. Stick with me, I’m getting somewhere. Ready? Here it is:
It is not the doctor’s job to heal you.
That’s right. It’s not.
Doctors get a bad rap from most people who have been ill longterm. They are overworked individuals who are often run into the ground physically themselves. I believe that each of them went into healthcare truly wanting to help others. But what happens when they finish their first 4 years of medical school? They are told to choose a speciality and they spend the rest of their education learning only about that speciality.
Here is another hard truth: The entire body is connected.
Friends, we can not expect to go to a specialist and learn how all of our symptoms are tied together. If we have been sick for a while, our entire body is affected. Not just one system or area of our body. We can not expect to go to a one doctor, hear the diagnosis, get the cure, and then go on with life in one or two appointments. Did we go to only one school? No. We went to elementary, middle, then high school. Most of us went on to college. We picked a major and spent four years learning about that major. If I graduated with an English degree, don’t come to me with calculus questions- I probably won’t know the answer! It takes stages of learning to graduate with a degree. Likewise, it takes stages of healing for us to achieve full remission. This means it will likely take several care providers to walk the recovery road with us.
Some of us have found incredible practitioners who go above and beyond for us. These individuals make us feel cared for and help us find answers. The difference is US- we, the patients. Patients who are open to experimenting with different protocols, ready to make changes and stick with them, excited to learn, learn, learn—these are the patients who get better. Practitioners who are committed to their cases practice medicine in a different way than the ‘normal’ medical system, therefore, we have to be open to different ways of treating our diagnoses. When we trust our care provider, following their recommendations (and sticking to them!) is easier. When we start to see the results, it’s downright easy.
In my health coaching, I work with my clients to empower them to know how to read and learn from their doctors. I teach you specific language and actions that encourage your doctor to work with you, as an equal, not someone above you. We spend a lot of time on teaching you to read your body and knowing what to bring your doctor to help them make informed decisions for your care that bring results.
I want you all to know today, that you CAN get better. But it is YOUR job. Not your doctor’s.
Your doctor is there to help guide your ship. They know what they know- but they don’t know you. You know you. If you sit quietly during your appointments, don’t ask questions or give them feedback then chances are, you won’t make headway as fast as you could. If you stop listening to them once you are out of the office, you can’t expect them to be responsible for what does or does not happen afterwards.
I don’t believe doctors deserve the harshness that gets thrown their way from disappointed patients. Are some truly careless? Probably, as with any type of person. But let’s change the cycle and give them the benefit of the doubt. They are trying to help you. Our job is to give them as much solid information as possible to enable them to make the decisions that will most benefit us. To do that, we have to step away from the negativity and into our power. We have spend our energy on gathering information about our body’s state every day – that action is NEVER wasted.
Knowing when to trust your doctor’s judgement and when to trust your own is the biggest breakthrough you can make in your recovery. Ready to get that for yourself? I’m taking 1:1 clients for 2018. Email me today to schedule your free consultation call and we’ll see what we can make happen for you.
What do you think? Is it your doctor’s job to heal you?